Boyfriend still on dating website
He has also slept with friends, which I find a bit strange, as it goes over that friends/lover/feelings boundary, and admittedly I have been hung up on this issue with him in the past, but kind of accepted our different histories now.
I’ve spoken to a male friend to try and get his perspective and he reassured me that it is typical male behaviour (including looking at porn, which my partner – to my unease – and male friend does).
I also asked if anyone has contacted him on the website since he’s been going out with me and he said that a couple of girls have but he hasn’t replied to them (he also let me see the messages).
I know he is committed, as he tells me that he wants to be with me and although he looks at other girls, including girls on a dating site, he tells me has “chosen” to be with me.
He said that he only looks at it to use the function where he can look through it and he can click on “yes” or “no” (i.e. He says that he always clicks on “no” even if they’re good looking.
He reassured me that he was not going on there to look for girls, but just to look at their pictures.
The thing is that it’s now really niggling at me and I feel like he’s broken my trust.
He said that he didn’t see anything wrong in it and it meant nothing.
Today, we can contact this person at the touch of a button and in an idle moment might send off a “Hi Sexy” message.
As you can imagine this can lead to all sorts of problems.
Is this typical male behaviour and I am just unable to see beyond my own female perspective?
If it is, what things should I be asking myself or focus on to try and stop my mind from going over all this stuff in my head?
I understand that we’re all human and we notice the opposite sex, but I just have lots of questions running through my mind now like “was he being genuine at the beginning?