Women head households, while men lead an apparently carefree and subordinate existence in homes ruled by their mothers or sisters.Sexual contacts between men and women are initiated and terminated at the will of either party, and do not affect family and residential arrangements; the children resulting from these contacts belong to the mother’s household. For as long as women expect support from the fathers of their children, male promiscuity will lead to distress and declining fertility as women fail to find committed partners.We could, at least in principle, become a largely matriarchal society, or at least one with a dominant matriarchal subculture.#page# Would this be the solution to the crisis of the modern woman, as Bolick suggests? But such a social order would be merely the flip side of the patriarchal social structure feminists love to hate.Men who begin having sex in their early teens do not effectively absorb the lesson that they will need a job — or any accomplishment besides physical attractiveness or charisma — in order to have sex.By the time they are old enough to learn otherwise, many of them have fathered several children and failed to make themselves employable.Men in such communities, which Bolick points out have experienced the most dramatic decline in marriage rates due to male shortage and promiscuity, are seen as increasingly dispensable.A recent Fox News article cited a survey of poor urban fathers in which more than half of respondents said that “they were replaceable by another man or their child’s mother.” In , a detailed study of low-income neighborhoods in Philadelphia, Kathryn Edin and Maria Kefalas describe how poor, unmarried mothers choose their child’s last name.
When men bind together and hold power, women do not participate in decision-making as equal partners.
To a significant extent, it comes from matriarchal communities in which women not only live but raise children together, without the involvement of men.
#ad#Bolick is inspired by the women she meets in a poor African-American community, who bind together across generations to raise children.
It contributes to the lowering of women’s expectations of men and men’s expectations of themselves.
The sexual availability of unmarried women, which can only be exacerbated by a more matriarchal social structure, plays a key role in promoting male decline.
Because of their inherent immaturity, most males feel embarrassed and shamed by a woman giving them an enema.